As I announced last week, I recently got married.
Initially, my mind was made up about not changing my last name. I've had this one for 14 years. My real estate license and my business are both under my current name.
I chose my current last name after a divorce. I took my brother and sister's last name. And let's face it, not changing my name requires zero effort.
Yesterday, though I felt maybe I should reconsider. So I started praying (as I hadn't yet).
This morning I thought how weird would it be to become a Christian yet not call yourself by Christ's name? But instead, keep your old identity.
Biblically, the hierarchy is Christ, Husband, then Wife. By not taking my husband's name, am I saying I don't respect the Biblical hierarchy?
I am independent. I've had no choice but to be so. I realize there's some weird sense of safety in not changing my name.
But I'm no longer convinced my reasoning is valid, or Biblical.
Thoughts?
And as weird as it may sound, I keep thinking about my two adult sons who are deeply involved in the LGBTQ cult.
And I can't help but think by not taking my husband's name, I'm affirming that traditional gender roles are obsolete and men aren't really respected or needed.
@Truther It's odd but I was thinking about this earlier today. This is by no means a judgement, just an honest opinion. My niece was recently married & decided not to take her new husbands name. I honestly don't understand that, except that they are not Christians & weren't married in church. Taking my husband's name, to me, means that I gave myself fully & acknowledged his leadership.
Also- CONGRATULATIONS!!
I think if I were 20 something and it were my first marriage, I would automatically take his name. Maybe being 51 and it not being a first marriage (and being single for 14 years) hardened me a bit.
I do agree with you though and will take his name because I feel convicted.
@Truther That is between you, your husband & God. I pray a lifetime of love for you both, Sister.
Thank you!
@Truther I am not a Christian. I see Western traditions in a vastly more ancient perspective. Penelope remained loyal to Odysseus for twenty years and denied an army of suitors in his two decades of absence. It is the husbands duty to never kneel before any man even in the face of death, that is his greatest challenge. It is the wifes duty to kneel only to her husband and him alone, that is her greatest challenge.
Are you up to the challenge?
Wow, this is amazing. Thank you for sharing!
@Truther
told the [late] hubby that i would not be changing my last name, not because i was independent or anything like that. it was because i didn't want to go through the hassle of changing everything to the new last name.
on his death bed, he asked me to change my last name to his, and gave me that innocent puppy look.
i changed the last name.
took me ten months to get everything updated.